by Benson Agoha
I just finished M.C.Scott's `Rome: The Art Of War', where Prabo managed to sustain, over a long period, his love for a beautify spy. Jocasta had grown into a spectacular combination of brain, beauty and confidence, three of the very important attributes of power.
Though Prabo's fantasy and loyalty eventually paid off, at least for the sake of his beautiful heart, it was expectedly bumpy. Beauty aside, how much loyalty really can you expect from a powerful and well connected spy?
But Scott's epic novel was set in AD69 Rome. Now fast-forward by 1,945 years and we consider a young man declaring his fancy for a beautiful career woman.
`Why do you love me?', she asked him after a few acquaintance meetings.
'Because I find you lovely and truly beautiful', lover-boy explained, earning himself a fleeting smile.
Why? Because women are often more comfortable with the subject of beauty than that of love, for the simple reason that, while being lovely reminds them of coupling-up and tangling feeling, that of beauty tells them they are appealing and desirable.
Though his mother warned him not to try too much to understand women, lover-boy had since found that women appear to prefer `uncommitted appeal and desirability' to being in `love'.
But surviving through the ages, is beauty compliment. It is about the only gift that guarantees instant reward from the receiver. Sometimes, it delivers more in return.
For while lack of commitment helps a lady's flirting, which can potentially stir up desires, and offers that can then be evaluated for a decision, love says you are taken - and out of the market.
So women appear to let the circle go on, until they meet that `special' someone. Often times, these are unavailable.
A beautiful and well dressed woman is just `an invitation to treat', law teachers often tell their students.
Still evaluating the young man, the lady said "I have my faults, you know".
To which he replied "I didn't expect you wouldn't."
The tempo changed, and skin reddened before she said "So you mean you expected faults from me and yet you want me, why is that?"
The young man looked around, no one was on hand to help him sort his problem out. He had to figure out a way.
Whoever said beauty was without blemish? The truth is that we all only have imaginations of beauty, or its epitome.
And in so far as that goes without a doubt, there are those who will argue that they recognize beauty when they see it. Do you?
Custodians of beauty claim, they know it when they have it, but a sage admonished that beauty is transient and ephemeral. Perhaps, this is why lovers of beauty seek it. To find it, understand it and know it - in case it disappears.
Some say beauty empowers uniquely. But, as much as it does, it is only internal strength that truly exposes and drives it to the surface.
How then do you recognize, and progressively reinforce latent strength in others, to stimulate their beauty?
Psychologists believe that beauty is a product of happiness. In other words, if you want to be beautiful, try to be happy, even though you still have to pursue happiness.
Happiness, is a state induced by different variables in exchange for its own by products varying behaviours, depending on the individual and his personality characteristics.
Mystics and astrologers believe that beauty is a product of a different state, which depends on an individual's `self-rising', which increases one's sex appeal and radiance. Each of these standpoints have their relevance.
And if recognizing what triggers inner strength proves difficult, defining `beauty' appears more so. Yet many of us crave for beauty more than a superior inner strength.
Without inner strength, beauty exudes a forlorn and despondent outlook. Without `inner strength' also, `will' is lost, and without `will', there is no `hope'. Without `hope', radiance varnish. Without radiance, there can be no `confidence'.
Five pre-conditions of beauty - variables that feature as necessary pre-requisites of appreciable beauty include:
Inner Strength: the energy necessary to consciously articulate and aim for a cause.
Will: the determination to work on that given cause towards a positive result.
Hope: the believe that there is a future result that is derivable from that pursuit.
Radiance: the noticeable result of that conviction that you are doing the right thing towards a desired goal. This leads to peak performance. The point at which `beauty' is observable.
Confidence: The point at which possessors of beauty are seen to exhibit noticeable self-belief. This in turn produces an element of calmness and self-worth exemplified by self-confidence.
So beauty is a product of inner strength, producing will, hope and radiance and confidence - in that order.
Obviously communicating this to those obsessed with beauty or lack of it can prove herculean, and perhaps explains why the sage, Plato, sought to assuage the feelings of diffidence in others when he said "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!"
Ok then, if you notice it, please tell them or would you rather not?
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