When Your Mother In-Laws Corrects You, And you Just Would Rather Not Have That Now.

by Benson Agoha | Life and Living

For many people - married or not - relationship poses its own regime and sets of problems. But while counsellors will easily sort out most of the problems by admonishing the couple, they usually find it harder to sort out parental interference.

Many ladies find parental interference an unwanted intrusion into what they consider a private area. And some marriages have collapsed as a result.

But as we find, our lives are rarely private,. and oftentimes affected by contributions from friends and loved ones - especially parents.

One lady took the extreme step of forcing her man to take a stand and declare choose between her and his parents.

For many men, this is like finding yourself between the devil and the deep blue sea.  Or worse, like being presented with the devil's alternatives, knowing that which option they choose, someone's emotion is going to be hurt.

In the case under consideration, when the man defended his mother, the lady moved out , effectively ending their marriage.

In some cultures, especially those with strong definitive stand on such issues, when a lady takes such steps as moving out of her spouses home, the man must have to pay a penalty before collecting her back, even if he was not at fault.

In modern societies and cultures, especially in the west, the man may just try and woo his girl back, by any means.

But parental interference in children's relationships often causes many problems for the couple, and may leave indelible marks that may earn them disrespect from the offended male of female.

To protect themselves against artificial meddling and interference, some couples ban both sets of parents from visiting them or even making comments about or contribution into the relationship.

Some mothers would rather their daughter dates some other male - effectively showing their disapproval for the man and the union, as well as disrespect for their daughter's capacity for making decisions.

                                                   

What do you do when your mother In-law thinks you are not good enough for her son? If you disapprove of your son/daughter in-law, how do you show it?

The issue of parental interference is one that defies parents, and many would resort to facebook and other social media to seek advice.

One woman threatened to throw him right out, if he showed up at their door step. Her friends advised her to meet the young man first before, throwing tantrums. The young man sensed danger and stayed away.

Still, many parents are clueless. One parent even threaten to do to the young man exactly whatever he does to his daughter.

What is your suggestion for handling parental interference into the relationship of their children?